What They're Really Saying

When he says, 'Read me a story Mommy!' he's really saying, 'I want to spend time with you and feel your strong arm encircling me, cozy and tight.  I want to feel you near and rest my head on your chest like a pillow.'

When she says, 'Will you just listen to me!'  she's really saying, 'Please, just let me share my thoughts with you.  Don't shut me out!  I need you to hear me.'

When he says, 'I just want to be left alone,' he's really saying, 'I can't take any more of your negative words.  Please don't brow-beat me just now.  I'm tired of hearing all the things I do wrong.  Just give me a hug and let me know you love me.'

When he says, 'Can I have a cookie?' he's really saying, 'Did you mean it when you said 'no cookies before supper'?  I wonder if I can get her to give in to me while she's on the phone!'

When she says, 'Can we go to the pool tomorrow?' she's really saying, 'I want to have some fun and be with friends and forget all the chores you have for me to do!'

When he says, 'You're right.  I did that.  I'm wrong.'  he may also be saying, 'I give up.  I give in.  I'll say what you want to hear just so you'll let me be.'  And then he may hide his face in the pillow so you won't see his tears.

I hope I can hear what they're really saying when they say these things to me.





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Comments

  1. Ahhh, reading between the lines. There should be a class in that for every Momma!! ;-D

    Thanks for linking up today!

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    1. Thanks for your comment - sometimes my ears are so deaf to their hearts!

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  2. great reminder to really pay attention to our children's hearts!

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    1. Thanks! Hard to put into practice for sure!

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